November 27, 2012

4 Choices to Make While Dealing with Disappointment


I don’t care if it’s the day after an election or the middle of a seemingly ordinary year. Somewhere along the line and in varying degrees we will be faced with disappointment.

Let downs come in hundreds and thousands of shapes and sizes. The set back I deal with today actually has nothing at all to do with the election. Sometimes we can commiserate with one another, other times we are left solely alone with our shattered feelings. Whatever setback you are facing what are some healthy choices we can make in dealing with disappointment?

I’ve narrowed my healthy choices down to four:

1) Pause.

Take a few hours. A day. Maybe a short vacation. Whatever timeframe is needed, a true pause is critical. I hear that in Europe they take daily afternoon pauses. Three to four hours worth. They don’t feel guilty about this either. They recognize the health behind it. As Americans we haven’t figured this out yet. Not sure if we ever will.

2) Re-evaluate.

Where does the disappointment come from? What is the root? Was the let down within my control or out of my control? Was there an oversight on my part? How can I do things different next time? Where might I have been guilty, arrogant, innocent, or naive? How can I now take personal responsibility? What decisions do I need to make from here on out that will allow my soul to sing again?

3) Move on.

Get up, put your pants on and head out the door. The sun will rise and the sun will set until Jesus returns and disappointment will be no more. Life is what it is. Some things we can change, a lot we cannot. As we move forward we pursue the things we do have control over. We move on one step at a time.

4) Go buy another ice cream cone.

Life’s too short. Lick it and love it while you've got it balanced on the cone.

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” ~ H. Jackson Brown Jr.

What healthy choices do you make in dealing with disappointment or set backs?

Originally Published: November 27, 2012
Category: Emotional Health
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