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It took me sixteen years and counselor #8 to realize that my marriage was abnormally difficult. I was a psych major. I have half of my masters’ in social work. I worked at a social service agency for a year-and-a-half as the good touch/bad touch lady. And I had no ...
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“I just can’t forgive myself.” I have heard this said by women who have done horrible things, things they completely regret, things that haunt them, things that they just can’t seem to let go of and move on from. And I totally get this. I have huge regrets in my ...
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When I first announced my separation, I lost several speaking engagements. On the one hand, I understood where the people were coming from, being a former women’s ministry director, but I have to admit, I felt such shame in those moments. I think one of my blog readers who commented last ...
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Question (from Facebook community): “How can I make sure I don’t repeat my mistakes?” Whether you’re still married and trying to rebuild your marriage or you are separated or divorced and looking toward your future, there is emotional work you can do on yourself to attempt to prevent repeating ...
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There’s only one reason I’m telling this ten-year-old story and that’s because I need to be reminded, right now, that I believe that God is so enamored with us that He is still a healing God. Plus, it’s a pretty cool story. It’s a long story, but a cool ...
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Pretty much everyone who has ever been married or found themselves in a hard marriage or on the other side of divorce, in the Christian world, has heard someone tell them that “God hates divorce”, pulling from Malachi 2:16 (NLT) that says, “’For I hate divorce,’ says the Lord, the ...
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I am grateful to say that I am coming along – albeit slowly – in this forgiveness process that I’m on. I’ve been reading Lewis Smedes’ Forgive & Forget(highly recommend, by the way) and I’ve been asking Jesus to really work with me on this, to really heal me. ...
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If, as of late, my emotional health were one huge kicked-down brick wall, all scattered and messy, then these days you will find me putting all the bricks in their rightful place, maybe for the first time. I feel like I’m starting to take huge gulps of fresh air after ...
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I am totally stuck. I have the poison of unforgiveness coursing through my veins, my mind and my heart these days and it’s torturing me. I know I’ve touched on this before (so please forgive me!), but what do you do with a person who looks at you and says, ...
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Lately I’ve been thinking about the little known type of abuse called gaslighting. Its name is taken from the play and the two subsequent screen adaptations where the husband attempts to convince his wife – and others – that she is insane by manipulating elements in her environment. I want ...