I’ve been thinking a lot about marriage these last few weeks for several reasons. Whether it is with the couples I work with, or my own personal marriage . . . I have come to realize that we just can’t do marriage on our own. We can throw all the tools at it we want, but at the end of the day it takes a supernatural power that you or I are not equipped with. So as I have thought about my own marriage I have prayed that I would be able to create a sacred space between my wife and I where God dwells, and in the process transforms our marriage. I pray for this because I know how quickly I close up this sacred space as I try to do marriage on my own terms. My own pride and selfishness get in the way, and often I think I know what is best for marriage. But in fact, the longer I am married, the more I have come to grips with just how powerful this sacred space is.
We don’t often (ever?) associate the NFL with parenting. As a pediatrician, I get it. These gifted athletes come to the NFL to play well, help get their team to the Super Bowl, draw large crowds and well, make money for the organization. That’s all good, but I know that there’s more to these men than meets the eye, and my job as their advocate, is to help each one who is willing, to build upon and show off his skills as a father.